I WANT MY DAMN BED BACK!!

For the last several weeks...well going on several months now, my daughter has been waking up in the middle of the night. It all started with those damn teeth. She used to sleep 10 & 12 hours a night straight through & in her own bed. Now, when she wakes up @ 3am, she always ends up in my bed. At first this was ok with me. We all get sleep & we get to cuddle. Now I've had enough. I WANT MY DAMN BED BACK! I know that we have it VERY good compared to the horror stories we've been told by other friends or family with young one's right now and for that I am thankful, but when you get used to having things being one way for so long and then over night they changed.......you start to lose your mind. At least I am. I try so hard to rock her back to sleep and put her back in her bed, but the second her body touches her matress she wakes up and starts crying. I deal with this for anywhere from 30 minutes to 2 hours a night, until finally me or my husband justs puts her back in bed with us. The thing that really hurts me, is that I find myself getting SO irritated with my daughter. Why won't she just go back to sleep? Is it still her teeth? Is it this cold she seems to have? Is she just used to sleeping with us? Does she have gas? Is she hungry? Does something hurt her? I keep reading that @ this age I should be letting her self soothe. Well, whoever wrote that shit probably has no children. If I try to let her cry herself back to sleep, she just starts SCREAMING crying, you can hear her voice cracking, and she will just keep going until someone picks her up and if I let it go on for longer than 5 or 10 minutes I feel like a horrible mother. What the hell am I supposed to do?

SM